Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Time limit?!?!?!

I just went to see my family doctor because I woke up with a very bad sore throat. I wanted to get in to get some medicine so that it doesn't get worse over the Holidays. Let me just state that I really don't like my family doctor but just keep going to him since it is a hassle to change doctors. He has made several comments in the past about our infertility that have rubbed me the wrong way and again today he said something else! He told me that we should put a time limit on infertility treatments and let’s say if 1 year rolls around and nothing then we should move to adoption. Who is he to tell me when to quit infertility treatments? I told him that we still have embryos and we are going to use our embryos and if the time comes that we run out and we are still not pregnant...we will then look at our options and decide at that point what we are going to do. I am not going to put a time limit on infertility because infertility treatments take time. Whose to say that we won’t still have embryos in one year…I am not going to just abandon those embryos…they are mine and I want them implanted in me!!!! Sorry just had to vent a little! Any opinions on what I should do….keep going to the jerk (sorry that is how I feel about him right now) or change????

I have my second acupuncture appointment this afternoon and will find out how much this is going to cost us! Will post about my acupuncture experience soon!

Oh yeah, my family doctor told me I should get the H1N1 vaccine and would give it to me! What to do?????? Now I have to make up my mind if I want to get it or not. I am going to call my IF doctor and see her opinion and just trust whatever she says.


Hollie said...

Crazy! None of his business to tell you what to do with your life. I know that people just cannot understand IF unless they have been through it. And even people who have beat IF (like me) still slip up and make insensitive comments from time to time. So you have to decide... was it innocent and well-meaning? Or was it judging and condescending? If you feel it was the latter, go see another dr.

Alison said...

I think that you should be able to trust your doctor, and if you don't repect him, you probably don't trust him either. I would change I think if I were you (and if you are feeling really brave, maybe nicely tell him why you are changing.) Good doctors who really have their focus on their patients seem hard to find these days. Praying for you. Love you.

Jennifer said...

I agree with Alison. If you don't like your doctor just try and find another one. You should be able to trust and like your family doctor with everyone in your family (including your future children) and if YOU don't like him then your kids won't either.

As for H1N1 OB told me to take it as well as the regular flu vaccine and also give both to Cade. I made up my mind that I didn't want to take the chance with the H1N1 vaccine since the studies have not shown 100% that the effects are completely safe for pregnancy...and I think that includes trying to get pregnant. That's my opinion and doesn't count for much, but I decided the regular flu vaccine was fine for us and as long as we followed good hygiene we would be fine. We have been healthy so I think doctors are just pushing the H1N1 for whatever reason they think they have to, but I don't think it's altogether necessary.